Monday, November 8, 2010

My Moments Of Enviousness

Some of the little foxes we overlook...2 Cases I want to share with you...

Case of Friend 1: This lady, I love (didn’t know how much until yesterday) and she will forever remain dear to my heart. We have come a long way, from when we first met at the camp in Aluu, Rivers State. I was 10 and she was 11. We just liked each other immediately. We met again in University about 7 years later. Same class, same course. How coincidental – my matric. number was just before hers. We remained friends though she was the saint and I the sinner. Thank God she never stopped praying that one day I will accept the gift of salvation.


We both got employed by the same company – I first. But when her job came (a testimony I keep thanking God for) it appeared to be better than mine. She made more money than I did. Today she is an international staff and I a “national staff”. In my moments of enviousness, I asked God, “Is she not my ‘mate’ again? I thought I had more advantage in grades and degrees? How come you gave her such a great opportunity that she even has more salary than I?”


As I spent time listening to and getting involved with the kind of sacrifices she makes, I began to realize that she had very huge responsibilities on her shoulders. Responsibilities which if I had, I may have run away from. Responsibilities which, if she had my salary, she may not be able to handle. Only the “additional” that came with her job, position and opportunity could take care of such responsibilities. I thank God that He knows what is best for us, and in His love and sovereignty, He takes care of our needs.


Case of Friend 2: This lady and I got promoted the same time last year, and to the same level. She was given a house, a car and a driver. I forgot to thank God for my promotion but had my eyes on all that came with her promotion. One day when we got talking, she said, “I have a big house, a new car and a driver, yet I do not get to see my husband to enjoy all these things with because of work!” I felt very ashamed of being envious of this lady.
Have you ever been jealous / envious of someone let alone someone so close?

Many of us have grown with the concept of “mate”. Hence whatever our mates have, we feel we should have. Many of us have been taught “competition” that when it seems our mates have surpassed us, we feel left out and try to get what our mates have. In my case, not only was I being covetous, I failed to be thankful for what I had.

Let us not become vainglorious and self-conceited, competitive and challenging and provoking and irritating to one another, envying and being jealous of one another [Galatians 5:26, AMP]

The standard for measuring ourselves should not be our “mates” because there will always be a time when some of our mates will have more than we do, and some others will have less than we do. Our standard for measuring ourselves should be the will and purpose of God for our lives.

And let us be thankful for the blessing of God upon our lives.



Have a blessed week ahead.
 

22 comments:

Dee! said...

Hmmm! I have o! But I thank God that I have learnt to thank God for ALL He has blessed me with.

Thanks for sharing this!

Stay blessed!

Uzezi said...

the grass is always greener on the other side. Like the song says, count your blessings, name them one by one and it would surprise you what the Lord has done.

doll said...

interesting

Jadesola said...

Thanks for sharing, as dis is one area I'm really struggling with.

Blessing said...

I def have! But I now know that there's a time and season for everyone and everything...althought it gets hard to wait some times, I can trust that I am right where God wants me to do....Thanks for sharing Rita!

Sisi Yemmie ™ said...

I most definitely have....especially these days when everyone is getting married and having babies....however i thank God cos i have come very far

The nitty-gritty tales of a housewife said...

I was ONCE envious of slim gals as a teenager but grew out of it later & accepted myself for who am i; A HEALTHY PLUS SIZE AFRICAN WOMAN!..lol

jobsfornaija.com said...

Same here. as everyone is getting married and having babies too........

Diamond said...

ALLELUYAH!!!!
thanks for sharing...I am guilty of that..And yes we should not compare ourselves..that's the worst thing you can do to yourself..thanks Rita and God bless..
I continue to learn from you..please post something everyday if you can.
:) thanks

Patrina's Pencil said...

We are a prideful breed. Pride keeps our focus on ourselves - We're content until we no longer measure up. When we're walking in the Will and purpose of God for our lives - we won't have the urge to compare. We'll know that we know that we are right where we are supposed to be.

I don't have a strong need to compare myself. I am blessed in that area - and I thank God that He has somehow created me that way - but I do have a struggle with knowing His perfect will for me at any given season. I seem to spend a great deal of time wondering and doubting - this is unbelief. I would feel more content with me and my circumstances if I knew they were a result of His choosing and not my own.

He always knows best!

his plans are so much higher than ours.

Blessings to you and mr. rita

patrina <")>><
warrior bride in boots

2cute4u said...

I had this friend who rose who got her house in Lekki, 3 cars and a popular beauty spa in V.I and I got really envious of her and asked God why she deserved all this more than me who does honest work. I complained to my mum who told me that all of the supposed wealth comes with a price; and I just began to notice that I had begun to lose focus, turns out all this was being provided for her by a man and I begged God for forgiveness and distanced myself from her to get me a clean and clear focus.

amaka said...

Well written again Rita. I have been wondering why I am still single when my "mates" are married. Why I have a crappy job position when my "mates" in the company have something better but this has opened my eyes that we are called to different purposes and destiny and we cant all go same way.

Thanks again. I'll keep asking God to show me the path he wants me to follow.

Favoured Girl said...

I completely agree with your last statement - "Our standard for measuring ourselves should be the will and purpose of God for our lives. And let us be thankful for the blessing of God upon our lives."

I've come to realise that in my life, I don't need to compare myself with anybody else. We all have a different purpose, a different destiny and a different time-table in God's eyes. We are all unique, so comparing ourselves to other people is futile.

jhazmyn said...

This is so true luv, I find my self learning a particular lesson twice sometimes and right now, i'm learning the lesson of contentment over again...hmmm, talk about carry-over in life...lol

Rainyjoy said...

wow ! honestly, i enjoyed reading this... i agree with Uzezi's choice of song.
Eccl 9:11- 'I have seen something else under the sun: The race is not to the swift or the battle to the strong, nor does food come to the wise or wealth to the brilliant or favor to the learned; but time and chance happen to them all.

thanx 4 sharing

Dupe said...

You are so real and Big yes, that feeling called "envy" sneaks into my soul every now and then and i have to willfully force it out...Henceforth, will endeavor to remember that the standard is God's will and purpose..after all, His will is PERFECT!

Olufunke said...

I can relate to this.
I know a lot about the 'envy'a jealous thing, I always find myself caught in it.

Thanks for this post

David C Brown said...

Our hearts are all the same!

Kafo said...

my thoughts your words
thanks for putting it so beautifully

have a blessed weekend

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Anoda Phase said...

oh waoh...thanks for sharing this Rita...I've got to review my way of thinking a bit...

@ilola said...

Uhhmmmm. I used to look at people 'up there' and wonder when I will reach that level. But I then realized that those people have what they do because the have sacrificed and paid their dues in the past. So if I want to be like them, I should pay my own dues also instead of envying. Thanks for sharing